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For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton As we write, so we build: to keep a record of what matters to us.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton In the works of Lucretius, we find two reasons why we shouldn’t worry about death. If you have had a successful life, Lucretius tell us, there’s no reason to mind its end. And, if you haven’t had a good time, “Why do you seek to add more years, which would also pass but ill?”
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We are like an exquisite high-speed aircraft which for lack of a tiny part is left stranded beside the runway, rendered slower than a tractor or bicycle.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The most attractive are not those who allow us to kiss them at once [we soon feel ungrateful] or those who never allow us to kiss them [we soon forget them], but those who coyly lead us between the two extremes.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton
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Shannon Van AlstShannon Van Alst I believed in the magic we made, but you were the magician and i was merely your puppet on stage.
Sophie AliaSophie Alia Eternity is vague. Let me fill in the blanks with you.
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Abel StarcAbel Starc His promises looked so promising that she just ignored the blatant truths.
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Terence McKennaTerence McKenna It’s natural to feel fear. All great warriors are afraid. Only the stupid and the delusional are not.
Rick RiordanRick Riordan It would be difficult to dispel ignorance unless there is freedom to pursue the truth unfettered by fear.
Aung San Suu KyiAung San Suu Kyi The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds.
Will DurantWill Durant Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.
Robert Louis StevensonRobert Louis Stevenson We promise according to our hopes and perform according to our fears.
Francois de La RochefoucauldFrancois de La Rochefoucauld I have one great fear in my heart, that one day when they are turned to loving, they will find that we are turned to hating.
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