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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

Alain de Botton

The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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Book Central Conception Emerge Happiness Property Reveal
When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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Evaluate Modest Property Repeatedly Scene Urge Value World
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
The media insists on taking what someone didn’t mean to say as being far closer to the truth than what they did.
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Closer Insist Media On Being Say Truth
Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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Better Everyone Few Life People Want
Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Achievement Affection Begin Depend Mature
The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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Admit Anticipation Fear Inability Leave Lie Memory Position Present Shelter
Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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Curiosity Distance Extend Huge Outward Picture Question Small Some Time
One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?
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Ask Author Book Kind Know Leave One
What should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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Good Number Oppose People Reason Worry
The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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Always Flawless Mediocrity Object Perspective Thing Throw Wish
Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Aesthetic Capacity Critical Draw Good Happiness Material Object Satisfy Seem
Our minds are susceptible to the influence of external voices telling us what we require to be satisfied, voices that may drown out the faint sounds emitted by our souls and distract us from the careful, arduous task of accurately naming our priorities.
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Drown External Influence Mind Require Satisfy Susceptible Tell Voice
We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And amid such uncertainty, we typically turn to the wider world to settle the question of our significance.. we seem beholden to affections of others to endure ourselves.
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Amid Appear Divergent Each Hold Native Ourselves Quality Range Such Uncertainty View
The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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Anxiety Defend Determine Largets Ourself Part Personally Sad
True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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Majority People Reason Respectability Stem
Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Embarrassingly Learn never Oneself Some Stupid Thing
A notorious inability to express emotions makes human beings the only animals capable of suicide.
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Animal Capable Emotion Express Human Inability Notorious Suicide Time
We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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Demonic Present Secular Society Struggle Unpleasant Virtue
Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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Allow Call Continuous Conversation Dead Make Misuse Opportunity Period Presence Rhythm
It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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Access Emotion Like Literature Look Range Saver Time Ultimate Waste
A ‘good job’ can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to.
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Devote Enough Entire Good Job Life Practically
To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.
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Enemy Ever Hate More Myself Own
Work is most fulfilling when you’re at the comfortable, exciting edge of not quite knowing what you are doing.
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Comfortable Do Edge Excite Fulfill Quite Work
After 40 (old age for most of man’s history), one should strive to be more or less packed and ready to go were the end call to come.
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Age End Less Man More Most Old Pack Should Strive
Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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Always Being Love Must Pain
What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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Ambition Argue Author Focus Idea Make Own Success Sure Want

The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.

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