One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
ALAIN DE BOTTONIn their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer’s words, to turn pain into knowledge.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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Our homes do not have to offer us permanent occupancy or store our clothes to merit the name. To speak of home in relation to a building is simply to recognise its harmony with our own prized internal song. Home can be an airport or a library, a garden or a motorway diner.
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Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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You need a long hard day’s work to reveal the logic of the craving for very bad tv and alcohol.
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We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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Bad art might be defined as a series of bad choices about what to show and what to leave out.
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A notorious inability to express emotions makes human beings the only animals capable of suicide.
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It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Although I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
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