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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

Alain de Botton

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
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Capacity Find Intimacy Rather Someone
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Art Care Dream False Idea Identify Make News People
What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
Philosophy had supplied Socrates with convictions in which he had been able to have rational, as opposed to hysterical, confidence when faced with disapproval.
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Conviction Disapproval Face Oppose Philosophy Rational Supply
The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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Analyse Arrogance Cause Important More Philosophy Reason Relationship Say Write
Work finally begins when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly.
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Badly Begin Exceed Fear Finally Nothing
We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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Attention Fortune Greater Look People Reason Respect Seek Straight
The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Another Disloyalty Everyone Finest Loyalty Monstrous Proof Toward
It is striking how much more seriously we are likely to be taken after we have been dead a few centuries.
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Century Dead Like Serious Strike Taken
If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Anticipate Art Besides Forget Inclined Much Perhaps World
True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
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Desire Lack Love Presence Smartphone
The mind may be reluctant to think properly when thinking is all it is supposed to do; the task can be as paralysing as having to tell a joke or mimic an accent on demand.
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Mimic Mind Paralyse Properly Recusant Suppose Think
The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Awaken Certain Company Competitiveness Excite Generously People Sensitivity
Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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Everywhere Get Interest Kind Machine Machismo Opposite Really Sensitive Sweetness
Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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Accumpilate Inform Intuition Judgement Real Time Unconscious

Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

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