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The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.

Alain de Botton

…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Amorous Beginning Bloody End Equally Love Politics
Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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Conscious Contribute Create Enthusiasm Guide Merely More Single
Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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Enough Everyone Love May Real Strength Test Weakness Wek You
One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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Important One Successful Suffer Teach Thing Unexpectedly
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
We will cease to be angry once we cease to be so hopeful.
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Angry Cease Hopeful Once
Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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Confidence Many Maturity Opinion Thing
What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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Ambition Argue Author Focus Idea Make Own Success Sure Want
It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad.
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Book Console Perhaps Sad
What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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Normal Very Only People Think Well
Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
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Compare Crucial Expectation Keep Mould Other Response Temper World
Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
What is a snob? A snob is anybody who takes a small part of you and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. That is snobbery.
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Anybody Complete Part Small Snob Take Use Vision
If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Anticipate Art Besides Forget Inclined Much Perhaps World
Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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Always Being Love Must Pain
The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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Bed Destiny Force Life Long Nowhere Often Ourselves Romantic Share Stronger Stumble
It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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Defies Human Life Nature Overwhelms Space Spend Time
Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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Anxiety Apprehend Book Continuous Dangerous Emotion Enjoy Finger Gloom Good
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
Artistic accounts involve severe abbreviations of what reality will force upon us.
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Abbreviation Account Artistic Force Involve Reality Serve
Every adult life could be said to be defined by two great love stories: the story of our quest for sexual love and the story of our quest for love from the world.
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Define Every Adult Great Love Quest Sexual Story
The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Beautiful Cry Expect Film Moment More Thing
A ‘good job’ can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to.
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Devote Enough Entire Good Job Life Practically
We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Actual Blame Enough Foul Lose Often Temper Those
The pleasure we derive from journeys is perhaps dependent more on the mindset with which we travel than on the destination we travel to.
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Dependent Derive Destination Journey Mindset More Pleasure
William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship

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