Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
ALAIN DE BOTTONThe more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand.
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Not everyone is worth listening to.
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The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.
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Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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It is striking how much more seriously we are likely to be taken after we have been dead a few centuries.
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An argument in a couple: 2 people attempting to introduce each other to important truths – by panicked shouting.
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It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.
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