The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
ALAIN DE BOTTONThe finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
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We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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Literature deeply stands opposed to the dominant value system-the one that rewards money and power. Writers are on the other side-they make us sympathetic to ideas and feelings that are of deep importance but can’t afford airtime in a commercialized, status-consciou s, and cynical world.
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What is a snob? A snob is anybody who takes a small part of you and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. That is snobbery.
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The activities of drawing, eating and drinking, all involve assimilations by the self of desirable elements from the world, a transfer of goodness from without to within.
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We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And amid such uncertainty, we typically turn to the wider world to settle the question of our significance.. we seem beholden to affections of others to endure ourselves.
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Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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Taking photographs can assuage the itch for possession sparked by the beauty of a place; our anxiety over losing a precious scene can decline with every click of the shutter.
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It is perhaps when our lives are at their most problematic that we are likely to be most receptive to beautiful things.
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Our disrespect for thinking: someone sitting in a chair, gazing out of a window blankly, always described as ‘doing nothing’.
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