The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
ALAIN DE BOTTONThere’s a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer’s words, to turn pain into knowledge.
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The blunt large questions become connected to smaller, apparently esoteric ones.
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To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.
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One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
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A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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