We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
ALAIN DE BOTTONThe greatest difficulty of Travel is that one is forced to take oneself along.
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Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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We are like an exquisite high-speed aircraft which for lack of a tiny part is left stranded beside the runway, rendered slower than a tractor or bicycle.
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Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
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Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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The pleasure we derive from journeys is perhaps dependent more on the mindset with which we travel than on the destination we travel to.
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There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
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Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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These inventors were elevating the formulation of entrepreneurial ideas to the status of a visionary activity. Though forced to justify their efforts in the pragmatic language of venture capital, they were at heart utopian thinkers intent on transforming the world.
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We keep a special place in our hearts for people who refuse to be impressed by us.
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For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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The best cure for one’s bad tendencies is to see them in action in another person.
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Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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