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Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.

Alain de Botton

It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however calming, was also a reminder of infidelity to what I had at one time held so dear.
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Absence Calm Forget Grow Identify Indifference Longer Reminder Time Wounded
Our homes do not have to offer us permanent occupancy or store our clothes to merit the name. To speak of home in relation to a building is simply to recognise its harmony with our own prized internal song. Home can be an airport or a library, a garden or a motorway diner.
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Home Merit Name Occupancy Permanent Speak
One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?
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Ask Author Book Kind Know Leave One
Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Biscuit Carpet Childhood Day Light Most Photo Smell Store Texture
Memory is… similar to anticipation: an instrument of simplification and selection.
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Anticipation Instrument Memory Selection Similar Simplification
A danger of travel is that we see things at the wrong time, before we have had a chance to build up the necessary receptivity and when new information is therefore as useless and fugitive as necklace beads without a connecting chain.
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Build Chain Change Connect Danger Information Necessary Receptivity See Thing Travel
Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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Believe Dangerous Immediate Invulnerable Reject Ridiculous Sex
Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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After All Get OK People System Tendency Top Unfortunate
Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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Conscious Contribute Create Enthusiasm Guide Merely More Single
Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
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Above Creature Descendant Happiness Impossible Longer Minute Worry
When I see someone like Richard Dawkins, I see my father. I grew up with that. I’m basically the child of Richard Dawkins.
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Basically Child Father People See Someone
I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship
I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Argument Believe Count Critical Manner Passionate Present Success
You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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Bash Daffodil Day Have Nice Normal Sunset
I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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Belong Church Music Nice Swallow

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