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Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.

Alain de Botton

I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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Actual Excuse Fantasies Job Learn Live Perfect Relationship
The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Another Disloyalty Everyone Finest Loyalty Monstrous Proof Toward
What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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Beauty Deep External Inward Object Physical Possess Seek Tell Voice
Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Control Crazy Know Maturity Try Under
Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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Apprehend Continous Dangerous Enjoy Feel More Otherwise
Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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Anyone Embarrass Enough Larn Last Live Probably
What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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Ambition Argue Author Focus Idea Make Own Success Sure Want
Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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Benefit Community Compare Interest Media Religious Social
Literature deeply stands opposed to the dominant value system-the one that rewards money and power. Writers are on the other side-they make us sympathetic to ideas and feelings that are of deep importance but can’t afford airtime in a commercialized, status-consciou s, and cynical world.
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Act Conscious Cynical Draw Money Object Power World
Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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Emouhj Health Mental Place Safe Settle
One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
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Against Best Disappointment Lot Protection
We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
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Book Help Hope Order Other People Reckless
We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Crowd Inside Newspaper Raed Stuff Tale Weird
Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Come Control Despair Hope Suggest Surrender Total
Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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Better Everyone Few Life People Want
Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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Conducive Conversation Few Internal Journey Mindwive Move Place Plane Ship Train

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.

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