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I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.

Alain de Botton

All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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Fill Hire Humiliation People Private Publisher Tour Venue Wait
If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Anticipate Art Besides Forget Inclined Much Perhaps World
Paying tax should be framed as a glorious civic duty worthy of gratitude – not a punishment for making money.
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Civic Duty Frame Glorious Gratitude Make Money Pay Punishment Tax Worthy
The blunt large questions become connected to smaller, apparently esoteric ones.
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Apparently Blunt Connect Esoteric Larger One Question Smaller
There is real danger of a disconnect between what’s on your business card and who you are deep inside, and it’s not a disconnect that the world is ready to be patient with.
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Business Card Danger Dep Disconnect Inside
We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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Close Envy Feel Friend Group Member Ourselves Reference
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Awaken Certain Company Competitiveness Excite Generously People Sensitivity
Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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Event Existence Fury Great Ground Sense Spring Violate
The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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Always Flawless Mediocrity Object Perspective Thing Throw Wish
We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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Biology Bitterness Class Envy Feeling Glacier Movement Physics Wrong
It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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Great Hate Live Long Themselves
We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Crowd Inside Newspaper Raed Stuff Tale Weird
Taking photographs can assuage the itch for possession sparked by the beauty of a place; our anxiety over losing a precious scene can decline with every click of the shutter.
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Anxiety Assuage Beauty Lose Photograph Place Possession Precious Sparkle Take
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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Benefit Community Compare Interest Media Religious Social

I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.

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