Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
IRVIN D. YALOMLife as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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