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Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.

Alain de Botton

Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Awkward Beneath Cynic High Idealist Standard
Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Career Choice Education Mad Precipitate Ward Write
True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
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Desire Lack Love Presence Smartphone
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth
We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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Demonic Present Secular Society Struggle Unpleasant Virtue
Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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Before Blend Define Joy Melancholy Perfection Sadness Sear
The problem isn’t so much finding good ideas (there is no shortage) as embedding the ones we have into everyday practice.
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Embed Everyday Find Good Practice Problem
Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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Apprehend Continous Dangerous Enjoy Feel More Otherwise
My writing always came out of a very personal place, out of an attempt to stay sane.
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Always Attempt Came Out Same Stay Write
There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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Always Emotion Lazy Option Quote
We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
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Book Help Hope Order Other People Reckless
I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Argument Believe Count Critical Manner Passionate Present Success
Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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Benefit Community Compare Interest Media Religious Social
The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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Bed Destiny Force Life Long Nowhere Often Ourselves Romantic Share Stronger Stumble
Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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Conscious Contribute Create Enthusiasm Guide Merely More Single
Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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Confidence Many Maturity Opinion Thing

Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.

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Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.

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