One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
ALAIN DE BOTTONThe arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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It is perhaps when our lives are at their most problematic that we are likely to be most receptive to beautiful things.
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Bad art might be defined as a series of bad choices about what to show and what to leave out.
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The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Our disrespect for thinking: someone sitting in a chair, gazing out of a window blankly, always described as ‘doing nothing’.
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He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
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The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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What am I supposed to do here? What am I supposed to think?
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Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others – because it’s a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.
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