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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

Henry Cloud

Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Anand Thakur
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Anand Thakur
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.
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Anand Thakur
Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Date Finding Life
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
He is the Truth, and He wants us to deal in truth with ourselves and our loved ones. We want the truth about you and your family to flood into and overrun the secrets that keep you in bondage to dysfunctional behavior and relationships.
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Anand Thakur
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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Anand Thakur
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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Anand Thakur
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

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