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We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.

Iyanla Vanzant

Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.
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Believe Reflection Thinking Worth Yourself
You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.
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Acceptance Life Love Play Reality Role Yourself
Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.
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Change Hard Healing Hope Hurt Reason
Everything you have done and been through is valuable and important. In order to be who you are, to know what you know, to be where you are in this moment, you needed to go through what you went through.
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Important Knowledge Moments Need Past Value
You set the standards for how you will be treated. People will treat you the exact way you treat yourself. So be good to you. Take time for yourself. Rest. Play. Shower yourself with affection, support, and gifts.
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Affection Goodness People Self Love Support Time Yourself
Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.
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Anger Believe Escape Experience Guilty Hold On Hurt Ourselves Reason Shame
Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.
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Change Darkness Deep Empowerment Willing Yourself
Listen for the instruction, instead of begging for the direction.
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Direction Listening
Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone’s purpose in life except yours.
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Job Purpose Yourself
It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.
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Deep Listening Need Yourself
To honor life, we must be willing to grow through what we don’t know yet, and outgrow what we know no longer fits us. We must be willing to give in to the process, moment by moment, realizing a new plot may be unfolding.
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Growth Life Moments Willing
It takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. Letting go doesn’t mean ignoring a situation. Letting go means accepting what is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control.
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Acceptance Control Courage Fear Ignorance Let Go Resistance Struggle
Be patient with yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Know that all things are working in your favor. If you take one step toward the light of Spirit, Spirit will take five steps on your behalf.
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Belief Light Patience Spirit Yourself
Life doesn’t actually knock you down. It does, however, provide you with many opportunities to evaluate your standing in life: what you stand on, what you stand for, how you stand within yourself and for yourself.
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Life Opportunity Yourself
Speak and live in simple sentences. Bring closure- put a period to- those experiences that you don’t want to carry on forever and ever. Use commas in those places where you’re still growing and use exclamation points at the end of every lesson.
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Carry Experience Forever Growth Lesson Live Simplicity Talk
Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them enough to trust that they can handle it.
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Enough Love People Respect Trust Truth

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