When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
IRVIN D. YALOMThe drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer
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It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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