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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.

Irvin D. Yalom

Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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Absorbed Become Forgotten Ourselves Outside Someone Something
I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Against Believe Cheer Comfort Illusion Magic Quarry Think Though
Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Being Fall Give Large Limited Love Mode Person Rather Relate Single Way
The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Accept Accuse Act Another Being Fully Oneself Reveal Therapeutic Vehicle
Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Dignity Else Emerence Everything Government Highest More Protection Religion Revelation
The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Choice Construct Man Out Spirit
The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Creative Discipline Member Orthodoxy Outgrow Ultimate
When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Cluster Dead Death Living Memory Person Truly Vanish Wonder
To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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Activity Another Concerned Growth Life Love Mena
We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Effect Growth Life Local Patient Pleasure Ripple Salutary Take Touch
This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.
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Blossom Costly Diminish Existence Forever Knowledge Price Shadow Some Wound
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Avoid Deceptively Far Favor Free Genuine Ignorant Man
What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Country Emest Game never People Person Real Said Therapist Think
None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Book Future Idea might None Part Patient Reality Say Some Trouble

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