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One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.

Irvin D. Yalom

The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Creative Discipline Member Orthodoxy Outgrow Ultimate
One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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Far Fear Group Once Patient Powerful Reason Reluctant Therapist Therapy Thing Too Work
You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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Everybody Know Other Seen Some Therapy Think You
It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Aware Death East Every Face Moment Much Not Only Stand Stare Sun Terror Try
I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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Being Call Claws Must No Stop Themselves
Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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Alway Death Does Door However Inner Itch Scratch Some Time
Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Heal Healer Only Truly Wound
Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Enslave Entourage Jealousy Marriage Possession Spirit
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World
The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Accept Accuse Act Another Being Fully Oneself Reveal Therapeutic Vehicle
Since then mountains and torrential rivers and whatever separates and alienates have been cast between us, and even if we wanted to get together, we couldn’t. But when you now think of that little footbridge, words fail you and you sob and marvel.
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Alternate Between Footprint Marvel Mountain Now Sob Think Together Torrential
Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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Before Birth Darkness Death Identical Life Spark Void
The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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Anxiety Death Disappointment Fulfilled Have Many never People Fuel Potential
We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Effect Growth Life Local Patient Pleasure Ripple Salutary Take Touch
A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Avoid Deceptively Far Favor Free Genuine Ignorant Man

One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.

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One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.

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