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Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

Henry Cloud

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
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Chance Couple Destroy Fake Live Reality Relationship
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundary Breathe Experience Reality Remember Training Yourself
A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
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Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
You aren’t alive if you aren’t in need.
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The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love
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Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

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