One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
ALAIN DE BOTTONOur capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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Work is most fulfilling when you’re at the comfortable, exciting edge of not quite knowing what you are doing.
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There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.
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Architects themselves tend to shy away from the word, preferring instead to talk about the manipulation of space.
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Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.
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I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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A good half of the art of living is resilience.
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If our lives are dominated by a search for happiness, then perhaps few activities reveal as much about the dynamics of this quest – in all its ardour and paradoxes – than our travels.
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