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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.

Alain de Botton

To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Convince Difficult Feel Generally Only People Politics Quite Task
In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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Anxiety Between Day Gap Humiliation One Present Wish
The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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Analyse Arrogance Cause Important More Philosophy Reason Relationship Say Write
All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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Fill Hire Humiliation People Private Publisher Tour Venue Wait
Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Easier Except Happy Learn Less Play Practice Require Unnatural Violin
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
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Attract Fall Healthy Interest Object Rare Someone
The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.
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Age Happiness Luxury Materialistic Reveal Starkly Understanding
It’s perhaps easier now than ever before to make a good living; it’s perhaps harder than ever before to stay calm, to be free of career anxiety.
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Before Bore Calm Easier Even Good Live Make Perhaps Stay
Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others – because it’s a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.
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Above Bit Deserve Help Literature Little Other Prestige Reason Tool
If one felt successful, there’d be so little incentive to be successful.
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Felt Incentive Successful
The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.
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Badly Between Despair Difference Different Story Tell Way
Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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Confidence Many Maturity Opinion Thing
The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Art Care Dream False Idea Identify Make News People
To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.
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Enemy Ever Hate More Myself Own

Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.

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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.

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