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Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.

Alain de Botton

I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Emotional End Feeling Married People Powerful Uncertain
We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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Anything Hope Learn Pain Properly Something Suffer
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Beautiful Cry Expect Film Moment More Thing
We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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Biology Bitterness Class Envy Feeling Glacier Movement Physics Wrong
As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Adult Character Develop Parent Rescue Trait
There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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Acute Come Define Landscape Longer Place Result Selection Travel
We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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Compensate Home Much Need Physical Psychological Vulnerability
People who readily accept the need for a gym will resist that their personalities might need some work too.
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Gym Need People Readily Resist Some Work
Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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Event Existence Fury Great Ground Sense Spring Violate
What should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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Good Number Oppose People Reason Worry
There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
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Annoy Learn Look Most People Significant Thing
What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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Beauty Deep External Inward Object Physical Possess Seek Tell Voice
There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Balance Everything Fight Life Such Thing Unbalance Work
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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Defies Human Life Nature Overwhelms Space Spend Time

Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.

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Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.

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