Must being in love always mean being in pain?
ALAIN DE BOTTONWilliam James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.
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Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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What is a snob? A snob is anybody who takes a small part of you and uses that to come to a complete vision of who you are. That is snobbery.
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Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn’t find anyone to talk to.
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Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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