He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
ALAIN DE BOTTONArtistic accounts involve severe abbreviations of what reality will force upon us.
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We are not always humiliated by failing; we are humiliated only if we first invest our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement and then do not reach it.
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How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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It wasn’t only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.
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The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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Forcing people to eat together is an effective way to promote tolerance.
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All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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People who readily accept the need for a gym will resist that their personalities might need some work too.
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It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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