When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
IRVIN D. YALOMOnly free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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