You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
IRVIN D. YALOMMature love is loving, not being loved.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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To the best of my knowledge, every acute inpatient ward offers some inpatient group therapy experience.
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Death cures psychoneurosis. In a sense all these neurotic concerns–fear of rejection, interpersonal concerns–seem to melt away, and people get another perspective on their lives. The important things are really important, and the trivia of life is trivialized.
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Living safely is dangerous.
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