You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
IRVIN D. YALOMTherapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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To the best of my knowledge, every acute inpatient ward offers some inpatient group therapy experience.
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Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I’m still learning.
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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