When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
IRVIN D. YALOMTherapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other.
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A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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