A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
IRVIN D. YALOMLife is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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To the extent that one is responsible for one’s life, one is alone.
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Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I’m still learning.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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