To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
IRVIN D. YALOMOne reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I’m still learning.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you’ll always find despair.
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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