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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.

Irvin D. Yalom

…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Anxiety Creator Death Life Money Unlive
Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Barely Consciousness Just Membrance Mirror Softly Under
One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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Far Fear Group Once Patient Powerful Reason Reluctant Therapist Therapy Thing Too Work
Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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Consummated Death Die Life Lose One Terror
And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Concern Day Every Example Latter Life Pretty Privacy Security Trivialities Worry
If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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Ambition Awareness Death Drive Fact More People Temper Twenty
The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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Anxiety Both Decision Domain Finiteness Groundlessness Hard Lead Path Soak Territory
Death cures psychoneurosis. In a sense all these neurotic concerns–fear of rejection, interpersonal concerns–seem to melt away, and people get another perspective on their lives. The important things are really important, and the trivia of life is trivialized.
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Away Concern Cure Dear Death Interpersonal Meet Neurotic Psychoneurious Rejection Seem Sense
None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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Book Future Idea might None Part Patient Reality Say Some Trouble
This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Awareness Began Brought Come Confrontation Death Due Existential Experience Increase Preciousness Think
Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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Being Dose Mean Require Universal
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence
You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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Everybody Know Other Seen Some Therapy Think You
I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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Cluster Individual Known Last Live Old People Person Some Someone Thought
Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Absolute Allow Clear Determine Empty Free Friendship Man Premiseble Way
Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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Again Anymore Footbridge Immediately Remind Silent Step Want

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