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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.

Irvin D. Yalom

One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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Clear Feel Important Lety Live One Thing
Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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Absolute Allow Clear Determine Empty Free Friendship Man Premiseble Way
There is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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Anxiety Death Doctor Enter Evidence Example Ned Priest Professional Soldier
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Cluster Dead Death Living Memory Person Truly Vanish Wonder
The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Allow Each Emphasize Group InterAction Limit Patient Safer Set Therapist
Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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Even Good Himself Learn Live never Night Remind Thing
My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable.
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Certain Hunch Make Miserable Mist Most Ruthless Something Trend
We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Effect Growth Life Local Patient Pleasure Ripple Salutary Take Touch
One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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Compreghend Oneself Order Our Preoccuped
I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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Another Crave Dream Love More People Possess
A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively.
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Avoid Deceptively Far Favor Free Genuine Ignorant Man
The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Choice Construct Man Out Spirit
In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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Back Bereavement Found Gone Impressive Number Old Rather Simply Study Widow Windower
This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Awareness Began Brought Come Confrontation Death Due Existential Experience Increase Preciousness Think
It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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Alleviate Another Bear Child Children Consciousness Gem Life Loneliness Need Provide Purpose Reproduce Sperm Use Wrong

What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.

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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.

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