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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.

Irvin D. Yalom

One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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Compreghend Oneself Order Our Preoccuped
One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Approach Death Existence Frestand Issue Ratherminform Separate Theory Therapy
Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Barely Consciousness Just Membrance Mirror Softly Under
The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Accept Accuse Act Another Being Fully Oneself Reveal Therapeutic Vehicle
You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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Everybody Know Other Seen Some Therapy Think You
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Creative Discipline Member Orthodoxy Outgrow Ultimate
It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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Aware Death East Every Face Moment Much Not Only Stand Stare Sun Terror Try
One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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Clear Feel Important Lety Live One Thing
Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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Look Other Out Patient See Window World
Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Being Fall Give Large Limited Love Mode Person Rather Relate Single Way
When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Cluster Dead Death Living Memory Person Truly Vanish Wonder
Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Come Despair Dream Even Many More People True
Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it.
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Decide Life Miserable Spend Think
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World

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