Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
IRVIN D. YALOMIn a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Living safely is dangerous.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Hidden in disguise, leaking out in a variety of symptoms. It is the wellspring of many of our worries, stresses, and conflicts.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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