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In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.

Irvin D. Yalom

When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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Always Bad Cruisity Have People Sign Themselves
Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence. . . and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.
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Dignity Else Emerence Everything Government Highest More Protection Religion Revelation
Despite the staunchest, most venerable defenses, we can never completely subdue death anxiety: it is always there, lurking in some hidden ravine of the mind.
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Defense Despite Most Staunch Venerable
One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
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Clear Feel Important Lety Live One Thing
Indeed, the evidence supporting the efficacy of group therapy, and the prevailing sentiment of the mental health profession, are sufficiently strong that it would be difficult to defend the adequacy of the inpatient unit that attempted to operate without a small group program.
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Attempt Difficult Evidence Grow Health Impatient Indeed Operate Profession Small
What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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Country Emest Game never People Person Real Said Therapist Think
Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Absorbed Being Distinction Heidegger Make Thing Way World
I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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Brook Comfort Obvious Other Put Ripple Sense Source Stone Think
Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Accident Existence Let Life Plan Possession
It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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Alleviate Another Bear Child Children Consciousness Gem Life Loneliness Need Provide Purpose Reproduce Sperm Use Wrong
I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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Cluster Individual Known Last Live Old People Person Some Someone Thought
If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive?
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Ambition Awareness Death Drive Fact More People Temper Twenty
Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.
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Awareness Earth Finiteness Greater Help Improve Live Really Some Sort
Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Credo Import Therapeutic Life Living Perhaps Single Unexamined Worth
One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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Compreghend Oneself Order Our Preoccuped
There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Behind Borderline Label People Treat Violence

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