One thing I feel clear about is that it’s important not to let your life live you. Otherwise, you end up at forty feeling you haven’t really lived. What have I learned? Perhaps to live now, so that at fifty I won’t look back upon my forties with regret.
IRVIN D. YALOMI dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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As we reach the crest of life and look at the path before us, we apprehend that the path no longer ascends but slopes downward toward decline and diminishment. From that point on, concerns about death are never far from mind.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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Indeed, the evidence supporting the efficacy of group therapy, and the prevailing sentiment of the mental health profession, are sufficiently strong that it would be difficult to defend the adequacy of the inpatient unit that attempted to operate without a small group program.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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There is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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