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Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.

Henry Cloud

Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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Beyond Faith Feeling Reason Touch
Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed.
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Anand Thakur
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
He is the Truth, and He wants us to deal in truth with ourselves and our loved ones. We want the truth about you and your family to flood into and overrun the secrets that keep you in bondage to dysfunctional behavior and relationships.
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Anand Thakur
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Anand Thakur
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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Anand Thakur
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing

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