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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.

Henry Cloud

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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Anand Thakur
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
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Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Follow Narcissism People Togetherness Trust
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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Day Horse Important Mess Thinking
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain

We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.

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