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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

Henry Cloud

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
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Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Anand Thakur
If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundary Breathe Experience Reality Remember Training Yourself
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Anand Thakur
Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.
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Morals Reality Religious
A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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Anand Thakur
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Anand Thakur
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
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Anand Thakur
When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Person Present Truth Wisdom
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Anand Thakur
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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Brain Change Encourage Performance Yourself
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession

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