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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

Henry Cloud

If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Community Group Health People Surround Yourself
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
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Anand Thakur
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
The business of church is ultimately people. You’re trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Anand Thakur
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.
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For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.
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Brain Change Encourage Performance Yourself
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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Anand Thakur
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

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