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Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.

Henry Cloud

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Date Discover Finding Yourself
I’m not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are some very, very positive things about the state of integrity in church leaders.
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Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
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Existence Freedom Love Operation Responsibility
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft

Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.

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Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.

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