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How do the stems connect to the roots?’ ‘Where is the mist coming from?’ ‘Why does one tree seem darker than another?’ These questions are implicitly asked and answered in the process of sketching.

Alain de Botton

What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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Anything Hope Learn Pain Properly Something Suffer
The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.
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Belief Implication Merit Problem Really Society Top
Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Aesthetic Capacity Critical Draw Good Happiness Material Object Satisfy Seem
We should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow anything beautiful from them.
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Anything Beautiful Difficulty Embarrassed Failure Feel
Serious journalists often imagine society is adrift because people don’t know certain things.
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Adrift Certain Imaginem Society Journalist Serius Thing
Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Embarrassingly Learn never Oneself Some Stupid Thing
At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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Basic Collision Every Frustration Heart Structure
Most of us still caged within careers chosen for us by our not entirely worldly 18-22 year old selves.
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Cage Career Chosen Entirely Most Old Selve Still
There is real danger of a disconnect between what’s on your business card and who you are deep inside, and it’s not a disconnect that the world is ready to be patient with.
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Business Card Danger Dep Disconnect Inside
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
The most attractive are not those who allow us to kiss them at once [we soon feel ungrateful] or those who never allow us to kiss them [we soon forget them], but those who coyly lead us between the two extremes.
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Allow Attractive Most Once Ungrateful
Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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Anything Dream never Quite Reveal Somewhere
The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Art Care Dream False Idea Identify Make News People
We are like an exquisite high-speed aircraft which for lack of a tiny part is left stranded beside the runway, rendered slower than a tractor or bicycle.
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Aircraft Bicycle Exquisite Render Runway Speed Tractor
We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
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Book Help Hope Order Other People Reckless

How do the stems connect to the roots?’ ‘Where is the mist coming from?’ ‘Why does one tree seem darker than another?’ These questions are implicitly asked and answered in the process of sketching.

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How do the stems connect to the roots?’ ‘Where is the mist coming from?’ ‘Why does one tree seem darker than another?’ These questions are implicitly asked and answered in the process of sketching.

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