He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
ALAIN DE BOTTONOne’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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to design means forcing ourselves to unlearn what we believe we already know, patiently to take apart the mechanisms behind our reflexes and to acknowledge the mystery and stupefying complexity of everyday gestures like switching off a light of turning on a tap
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The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Yet often, they know but just don’t care. So the task of serious journalism isn’t just to lay out truths. It is to make vital truths compelling to a big audience.
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A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
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Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad.
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There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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