The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWe keep a special place in our hearts for people who refuse to be impressed by us.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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We are like an exquisite high-speed aircraft which for lack of a tiny part is left stranded beside the runway, rendered slower than a tractor or bicycle.
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The very act of drawing an object, however badly, swiftly takes the drawer from a woolly sense of what the object looks like to a precise awareness of its component parts and particularities.
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As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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The mind does most of its best thinking when we aren’t there. The answers are there in the morning.
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Most of us still caged within careers chosen for us by our not entirely worldly 18-22 year old selves.
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Differ though we might with Christianity’s view of what precisely our souls need, it is hard to discredit the provocative underlying thesis.
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Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you’re annoyed with them.
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Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.
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Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Newspapers are being read all around. The point is not, of course, to glean new information, but rather to coax the mind out of its sleep-induced introspective temper.
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My writing always came out of a very personal place, out of an attempt to stay sane.
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Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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