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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.

Alain de Botton

I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Emotional End Feeling Married People Powerful Uncertain
After 40 (old age for most of man’s history), one should strive to be more or less packed and ready to go were the end call to come.
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Age End Less Man More Most Old Pack Should Strive
The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Destiny Life Long Romantic Stronger
One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Advance Alone Better Capacity End Good Guarantor One Relationship
Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Come Control Despair Hope Suggest Surrender Total
Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
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Childlike Journey Life Nourish Precious Relevant Secular Seem Vulnerable
The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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Always Flawless Mediocrity Object Perspective Thing Throw Wish
You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you’re annoyed with them.
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Annoy Heavily Honor Invest Quite Someone Tell
Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Biscuit Carpet Childhood Day Light Most Photo Smell Store Texture
We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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Close Envy Feel Friend Group Member Ourselves Reference
We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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Attention Fortune Greater Look People Reason Respect Seek Straight
It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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Access Emotion Like Literature Look Range Saver Time Ultimate Waste
One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?
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Ask Author Book Kind Know Leave One
The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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Analyse Arrogance Cause Important More Philosophy Reason Relationship Say Write
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
It’s as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you’re living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart.
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Accept Afford Desire Either Grow Poorer Possess Relative Resource Rich Something Time

In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.

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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.

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