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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

Alain de Botton

The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Depend Happy Look Only Realise Thing Way
Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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Everywhere Get Interest Kind Machine Machismo Opposite Really Sensitive Sweetness
Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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Anything Dream never Quite Reveal Somewhere
I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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Belong Church Music Nice Swallow
The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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Admit Anticipation Fear Inability Leave Lie Memory Position Present Shelter
Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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Believe Dangerous Immediate Invulnerable Reject Ridiculous Sex
When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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Evaluate Modest Property Repeatedly Scene Urge Value World
I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Argument Believe Count Critical Manner Passionate Present Success
William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship
Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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Belive Cause Divorce Most Neat Necessary Other Unhappy
We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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Allegiance Desirable Important Mind Need Oppose Shore Site State Version World
It’s as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you’re living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart.
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Accept Afford Desire Either Grow Poorer Possess Relative Resource Rich Something Time
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Behaviour Forgive Malice Require Sense Sign Suffer
He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
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Bitterness Console Depress Expectation Inspire Love Happy Part Plan Rather
Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Awkward Beneath Cynic High Idealist Standard
When work is not going well, it’s useful to remember that our identities stretch beyond what is on the business card, that we were people long before we became workers – and will continue to be human once we have put our tools down forever.
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Being Business Card Go Remember Useful Well Work

Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

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