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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

Alain de Botton

How do the stems connect to the roots?’ ‘Where is the mist coming from?’ ‘Why does one tree seem darker than another?’ These questions are implicitly asked and answered in the process of sketching.
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Another Coming Connect Darker Mist Process Root Sketch Stem Tree
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And amid such uncertainty, we typically turn to the wider world to settle the question of our significance.. we seem beholden to affections of others to endure ourselves.
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Amid Appear Divergent Each Hold Native Ourselves Quality Range Such Uncertainty View
Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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Apprehend Continous Dangerous Enjoy Feel More Otherwise
Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Matter Much Only People Reputation Seldom Themselves
I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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Biology Bitterness Class Envy Feeling Glacier Movement Physics Wrong
We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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Demonic Present Secular Society Struggle Unpleasant Virtue
…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Amorous Beginning Bloody End Equally Love Politics
William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship
The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
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Analyze Clearly Closely Consider Eroticism Excitement Feel More Understand
There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.
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Devilishly Direct Idea Nervous Prospect Relationship Significance Think
The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.
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Challenge Human Interest More Now Smartphone
Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Easier Except Happy Learn Less Play Practice Require Unnatural Violin
Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn’t find anyone to talk to.
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Anyone Bookseller Destination Most Number Talk Valuable
It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however calming, was also a reminder of infidelity to what I had at one time held so dear.
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Absence Calm Forget Grow Identify Indifference Longer Reminder Time Wounded

Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.

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