Must being in love always mean being in pain?
ALAIN DE BOTTON
ALAIN DE BOTTON
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There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Literature deeply stands opposed to the dominant value system-the one that rewards money and power. Writers are on the other side-they make us sympathetic to ideas and feelings that are of deep importance but can’t afford airtime in a commercialized, status-consciou s, and cynical world.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The greatest works of art speak to us without knowing us.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton The blunt large questions become connected to smaller, apparently esoteric ones.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
Alain de BottonAlain de Botton We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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And in the end when the money is gone – will you still stay it was worth it.
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Ginnie BaleGinnie Bale In another life, you kept your word, and forever’s still ours for the taking.
Harriet SelinaHarriet Selina Journey with struggle becomes a great tale in the future.
Carla StokesCarla Stokes I’m not asking that you take the bullet for me. I wish you’d shoot first.
Danielle MontgomeryDanielle Montgomery A rainy day is the perfect excuse to explore deeper feelings.
Emily BockEmily Bock Stop taking care of everyone else before you take care of yourself.
Claire VinsonClaire Vinson Music is a weed, we all fallen souls are high on.
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You couldn’t help being influenced by Dylan.
Al KooperAl Kooper Theres a lot of churches that hide their dirty laundry under the rug, and I know about that from being in the church 27 years. Oh, yeah.
Al GreenAl Green That’s the way I try to live. I think it’s the only way for human beings at this point in our evolution as souls, where everyone in their lifetime is going through stuff.
Al JarreauAl Jarreau Married sex is like being awake during your own autopsy. It is root canal work without anesthetic.
Al GoldsteinAl Goldstein I don’t know what happens to you after you die. I’m not banking on there being, like, a heaven.
Al FrankenAl Franken What you see on the campaign trail is me. It’s easy being me.
Al FrankenAl Franken I’ve been a producer and led people. Also, being a comedian, you’re under pressure.
Al FrankenAl Franken Service dogs raise their masters’ sense of well-being.
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