Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWhat should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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My writing always came out of a very personal place, out of an attempt to stay sane.
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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