I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
ALAIN DE BOTTONto design means forcing ourselves to unlearn what we believe we already know, patiently to take apart the mechanisms behind our reflexes and to acknowledge the mystery and stupefying complexity of everyday gestures like switching off a light of turning on a tap
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The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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It’s as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you’re living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart.
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The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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You need a long hard day’s work to reveal the logic of the craving for very bad tv and alcohol.
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There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
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We should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow anything beautiful from them.
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It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however calming, was also a reminder of infidelity to what I had at one time held so dear.
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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Literature is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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