One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?
ALAIN DE BOTTONWe often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Although I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
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Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Unhappiness can stem from having only one perspective to play with.
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