Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWhat I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Anyone who isn’t embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn’t learning enough.
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What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.
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A good half of the art of living is resilience.
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Literature is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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The activities of drawing, eating and drinking, all involve assimilations by the self of desirable elements from the world, a transfer of goodness from without to within.
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There is real danger of a disconnect between what’s on your business card and who you are deep inside, and it’s not a disconnect that the world is ready to be patient with.
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Work finally begins when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly.
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Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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Artistic accounts involve severe abbreviations of what reality will force upon us.
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