He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
ALAIN DE BOTTONI went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Architects themselves tend to shy away from the word, preferring instead to talk about the manipulation of space.
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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The best cure for one’s bad tendencies is to see them in action in another person.
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Curiosity might be pictured as being made up of chains of small questions extending outwards, sometimes over huge distances, from a central hub composed of a few blunt, large questions.
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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