We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
IRVIN D. YALOMA focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life.
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It’s not easy to live every moment wholly aware of death. It’s like trying to stare the sun in the face: you can stand only so much of it. Because we cannot live frozen in fear, we generate methods to soften death’s terror.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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